8 Signs Of People Who Aren't Ready For A Real Relationship

You either want to be in a relationship or you don’t, but some people just can't wrap their head around this concept. This obviously isn’t fair to the person they're with.

It’s ok to not want a committed relationship, as long as both the people understand the casualness of it rather than letting the other one in a state of emotional despair.

So this article is for all those who might be stuck in a dead-end relationship and are clueless about it.

Watch out for these signs, cut your losses and get out before it’s too late.

1. They pick on stupid reasons to start a fight. 

It might be something as small as you turning up 10 minutes late, and they will turn it into something much bigger and make you feel immensely guilty about it.

They subconsciously want a way out of this relationship and think if they pick fights often enough, you will eventually just give in.

2. They don’t want to mingle with your friends or your family. 

Every time you invite them out with your friends or family, they’re conveniently busy. Even when you talk aboit it to them, they are plain uninterested.

They don’t want to form deep ties with the people in your life because they simply don’t plan to stick around for long enough.

3. They refrain from talking about the future of the relationship with you. 

 

Whenever you try to ask questions like where this relationship is heading at, they conveniently ignore it by asking you to quit worrying about the future and start 'living in the moment'.

They’re afraid to label your relationship and be tied down.

4. They don’t put in enough efforts and you’re the one making all the sacrifices. 

Whether it’s travelling long distances to meet them, staying up late just so that you can chat with them for a while when they’ve had a busy day or simply just being the first one to text or call all the time, they just don’t seem to care or make an effort to make you feel important.

5. All their past relationships haven’t really ended too well. 

 

They have a lot of baggage because of which they might be emotionally unavailable.

Their past relationships might have not ended to well which led them to building a wall around themselves that you just can’t scale no matter how hard you try.

6. They’ve been hurt way too many times in the past. 

 

They might have been cheated on or dumped in the past which had led them to closing their heart to others. They don’t want to go through the same thing again and find it extremely difficult to trust anyone and let them in.

7. They focus on the negative aspects of the relationship.

They’re always talking about what is wrong between the two of you rather than focusing on what's right. They’re always cribbing and picking up fights based on things that have happened in the past instead trying to rectify their mistakes.

8. They often talk about wanting to be free even though you’re not really binding them. 

 

You haven’t made a till death do us commitment and they’re free to leave, you might not even be too pushy and give them their space and yet they complain of being suffocated and feeling tied down.

If this is the case maybe you should let them go before you’re too deeply involved!

Regards

Ankush D Shilimkar